How To Manage Your Stress
By finding the way to reduce the stresses in your life you will feel more relax and will find many creative ideas to improve also your business. That’s why I would wish to convince you about the importance of simplify your life. Don’t sweat and lose time and energy on a small stuff. Concentrate on the important things in life enjoy your relationship with family and friends, respect your physical, mental and emotional health condition. It’s your life and you are the one that makes the decisions on how best to live it.
Before starting to feel sorry for all the things that you could do and you could have and circumstances that bring you the stress in your life, keep in mind that we all have stress in our lives. No one is exception. The stress no respect your age, colour, religion, social status, money or power. Sometimes we might feel that the life of our neighbors is better, but hold down you cannot envy them because you really don’t know what their stresses are. One old Russian folk tale says that if all the people in the world put their worries in a bag and put all the bags together we would all choose our own bag of troubles.
You can simple reduce the stress by knowing that people are happy as they allow themselves to be. First you have to identify what you like and what you don’t like. Then you can do more what you like to do and to do less of what you don’t like to do. Now, probably you want to stop me by saying “You cannot do always what you like and what you want- the life is unfair.”But you will be amazed at how much you can do once you have identified your priorities and have given yourself permission to do what pleases you .Just ask yourself the following questions: Is my desire and decision legal? Will it hurt anyone? Can I deal and be responsible for the consequences? If you answer no to the first two questions ‘no’ and ‘yes’ to the third than you are ready to go ahead. It’s your life and you are the one that take the decisions and actions.
Your stressors are very personal. What stress one person out, gives another joy. For example some people feel total panic when they have to be center of attention while others loves to do it. Make a list of all the things that stress you ( for example in different categories work, money, relationships and health).Then deal with the stressing issues. But remember that usually what stress you are not the actions of the people in your life, it is your reaction to those actions. You can say that your work stress you out, your husband/wife, your children, your friends, outside factors….ect. But be honest to yourself-how many people wake up in the morning thinking that today they plan to make your life horrible and stress you as much as possible?! While you have no control over your spouse moods or over the way the things in life are happening, you do have control over your reactions. You always have options and can choose to react in any number of ways. As you go through life you will find that some things are within your power and some things are not. The person who can make this distinction quickly and easily is very lucky.
Personally for me one of the hardest and most stressful things is to say “No” to loved ones, family, friends, colleagues .I suppose that most of the people feel the same. They want to be good guys and to keep the good relationship with people they care about. I realized that one of the biggest stressors to is taking too many tasks (and things to do) because we cannot say ‘no’. Maybe you don’t like to say ‘no’ for a number of reasons. Sometimes you want to control the issues .Other time can be fear that if you say no people will be angry with you, or they might not manage alone with the problem. But the true is that you cannot please all the people all the time. It’s totally ok to say ‘no’ sometimes. You will be amazed to see how different is when you stop to take other people stress on your shoulders. And if this influences your relationship with these people you could simply think how positive and strong is it? Just be reasonable and fair and face the consequences.
Nobody knows your stressors better than you .You are the only one that know how best to manage them and to feel peace and harmony in your life. Your identified stressors are under the control of your reactions. Remember that you can have anything in life, but you cannot have everything. It’s your life so it’s your control!
One more thing not to forget that “stressed” spelled backwards is “desserts”. So you make the conclusions….
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