Signs and symptoms of abuse. Be aware!!!
Family or domestic abuse is, unfortunately, one of the most common types of the domestic violence. Husband beats his wife, less often the wife beats her husband, the verbal abuse over each other – all this is killing the most important thing in life – love, and has a negative impact on all of the family members – the couple itself, their children and parents.
One has to live in a constant tension, take someone’s side, while trying to not offend the other side … Speaking figuratively it is a kind of terror of one or more family members over others. However, if you recognize signs and symptoms of domestic abuse at right time and understand that this kind of behavior is not right, you can seek the professional advice and take necessary measures to preserve your safety and safety of other family members.
The signs and symptoms of abuse are:
- Dominance. One of the family members behaves like an aggressor: making decisions for other members without their agreement; gives the orders of what should be done and demanding the obedience.
- Family members or one of them is often subjected to humiliation, experiencing ridiculing, bullying, public derogation. All this makes them feel the personal insignificance and helplessness.
- The abuser is trying to isolate the family members from external contacts with other relatives, friends, colleagues, neighbors, and so on. You have to ask permission to go out or do anything. Often you are not allowed to work or study, spend nights away from home, meet new friends, travel – anything, that can lead to the reappraisal of values.
- The abuser often resorts to physical threats against you, your relatives and children or against himself. Sometimes he can even use threats of going to authorities. The blackmail of various forms also takes place.
- Often the abuser arranges the scenes of emotional intimidation with loud voice, the destruction of furniture or demonstration or deadly and scary weapon.
- The abuser will never take the responsibility for himself. He prefers to blame others for all that had happened. If it’s not for the family, than for the circumstances, friends, state of the society, God, fate or anything else, but he won’t see the fault of his own.
Other signs and symptoms of abuse may include:
Physical signs and symptoms of abuse:
- injuries (burns, cuts, bites, head injuries)
- broken teeth
- broken ribs, nose, etc.
- hearing problems
- genital injury
- cranial trauma
Psychosomatic signs and symptoms of abuse:
- Symptoms of fear: palpitations, hyperventilation, tremor, sweating, dizziness, abdominal pain, heart pain, difficulty in breathing, insomnia;
- Symptoms of helplessness: weakness, depression, hypochondria, fatigue;
- Symptoms of stress: headaches, sleep disorders, abdominal pain, menstrual disorder;
Psychosocial signs and symptoms of abuse:
- feeling of guilt
- feeling of shame
- low self-awareness
- absent-minded behavioral
- negative self-conception
- social isolation
- problems in relationships
- sexual problems
- repressed emotions
- mixed emotions
Behavioral signs and symptoms of abuse:
- depressed and / or submissive behavior
- excessive nervousness
- frequent cancellation of appointments
- being in a constant, close contact with the offender
- phrases like “My husband won’t let me ….”