Signs of emotional abuse in relationships
Emotional abuse can manifest itself in the relations of the spouses (or partners) from both male and female side. It is very important at proper time to understand that your partner is behaving improperly toward you, this will help you prevent further violence and abuse against your person. It is very important also to remember that any emotional abuse sooner or later will most likely develop into a full-blown physical abuse, which can put your life in danger.
Here are 10 signs of emotional abuse in relationships:
1. Isolation. Abusive partner wants to isolate you from family and friends. Your companion wants you to spent all his time alone with him, he does not understand that you can have you own life outside of your relationship. To meet other people is perfectly normal, so if your partner forbids you to communicate with friends and family, it is a sign of emotional abuse.
2. Verbal humiliation. Partner call you derogatory names. Even if it happens supposedly in jest, he still is trying to belittle your dignity. Sometimes your abuser in order to absolve himself of blame for the abuse, begins to accuse you that you are too sensitive and gives you an advice to relax. Partner is almost always able to find a way to make you think that he is doing the right and the problem is you. But this is not true, everything is fine with you, and you are not too sensitive.
3. Blaming others for their problems. Abusive partner shifts the blame for what happened to him on the failures of others, and as a rule you. He almost never plead guilty to something.
4. The use of alcohol and drugs. Not all people who are prone to emotional abuse in a relationship abuse alcohol or use drugs, but many of them indeed do. The use of various substances and alcohol or drugs opens the door to violence and leads to unhealthy abusive relationships.
5. Causing fear. If your partner or spouse makes you afraid, then your relationship is just not right. “The emotional abuser” can show you his power and strength. For example, he can show you his collection of weapons and say that he is not afraid to use it, in order to make you feel terrified.
6. The punishment for the time you have spent apart. (This sign complements the first in this list.) If you’ve been somewhere or do something without your partner, or even if you have been together, but there are other people present, and you spent some time with them, “emotional rapist” blame you for this. He (she) will shout insults and threats in your address because you did not spent your time exclusively with him (her).
7. The expectation that you will serve and submit. Partner in abusive relations behaves as a master or a king, and wants you to be his voluntary servants.
8. Strong jealousy. The essential sign of abnormal emotional relationship with your partner is excessive jealousy, not only to real people, but even to the imaginary, like dreams and goals. Such jealousy invisibly permeates all aspects of life.
9. Emotional manipulation. Many of the “emotional rapists” are manipulators. If you do not agree with what they say or think, they are resorting to insults or threats to leave you. Often, they make you feel guilty when you want to do something on your own. Sometimes the abuser may apologize for something or to demonstrate his strong love, but this behavior is very short, and soon it comes back to “normal” (i.e. to abuse).
10. Transition to physical violence. If your partner is using emotional abuse towards you, one day he can grow into the physical abuse. He can start pulling your hair, pushing, grabbing, leading to some bruises or light injuries, or it can get much worse. With high probability, if your partner has an explosive character and responds to everything by violence (like, he starts throwing or breaking dishes in anger, kicks the wall, to gets involved in a quarrel with strangers), one day he will raise his hand on you.
Emotional abuse, no matter who does it, male or female, is unacceptable form of behavior. It can not be tolerated. Perhaps if you see above signs of emotional abuse in relationships, and you are systematically subjected to emotional abuse, you should change your partner.