Sources of stress. How to become stress-free?

It doesn’t make any sense to list all possible sources of stress, because we are all different and each of us has own patterns of thought and behavior. Everyone on this earth has unique life experience, attitude and ways to react to real-life situations. Events that trigger the development of stress in our body are called stressors; they determine the sources of stress in a one’s life.

Positive or negative stressors cause a stress to the extent to which a person perceives this stressor. If a person perceives a stressful situation as yet another valuable life experience that can teach something new, then the stress will manifest itself in the form of little excitement. If the failure (or other stressful situation) is taken with full-blown drama, the stress threatens with serious problems for the health, and can cause depression and even states of altered perception, so the sources of stress are very much individual and related to each person.

Sources of stress may be internal or external. To external sources of stress belong all the ups and downs of life. Internal sources of stress are originating in our minds, and they are nothing more than just our imagination.

External sources of stress:

  • Sudden changes in a one’s life.
  • Work related problems including high workload.
  • Difficulties in social interactions.
  • Financial problems.
  • Unemployment.
  • Personal life problems (family and children).

Internal sources of stress:

  • Inability to accept the uncertainty.
  • Pessimism.
  • Negative inner dialogues.
  • Unrealistic expectations.
  • Lack of diligence and perseverance.
  • Perfectionism.

Most common sources of stress (stress factors) are:

  • The death of a spouse.
  • Divorce.
  • Break-up with a partner.
  • Imprisonment.
  • Illness or death of a loved one.
  • Illness or trauma.
  • Losing one’s job.
  • Marriage.
  • Problem in relationship between the spouses.
  • Retirement.

The main sources of stress usually are:

  • Finances. Many researchers believe that the main source of stress is based on the financial relations. For example, buying a car or a house, loss of money, various debts, and financial obligations to third parties and so on.
  • Work. Due to the fact, that the work is directly related to financial relations, it can be called the second source of the stress. Sometimes, it seems that the career and work are the continuous causes of stress.
  • Health and safety. Problems with health and safety are always of great importance to a human being, as these problems involve the indirect threat to life.
  • Family. Strained relations with other family members can cause a serious stress. Such stress can linger for years and turn into the serious illness.
  • Personal relationships. The relationships with friends, colleagues and even strangers are always emotionally colored and often become one of the sources of stress.
  • Personal problems. People have always wanted to control their own lives and some of them – to control the lives of others. However, when the self-control weakens or falls apart due to things that can not be controlled, we experience stress, since the desire to control everything is natural to ego.
  • Death. Even the death of a pet is a stress for its owner; just imagine the tragic death of a loved one. The death is also a great source of stress.
  • The impossibility of self-expression. Everyone strives for self-expression, everyone wants to be heard (and understood) but not many get what they want.

It is important to understand, that the stress have a negative impact on health. So, the stressful situations weaken our immune system and cause a huge number of diseases (gastrointestinal, cardiac etc.). That is why you must learn how to resist stress and create a positive attitude.